- How would you describe yourself to someone who doesn't know you?
- What are your core values?
- What do you feel is your life purpose? If you don't know , what will you do to find out?
- In what ways have you integrated your core values and life purpose into your daily experience?
- If you have taken any personality inventories, such as Myers-Briggs or the Enneagram, what were the results, and how have they been helpful (or not) to you?
- What are you pleased to have accomplished in your life so far?
- What three goals do you most want to accomplish with your life in the future? Why?
- What opportunity do you regret not taking? Why?
- Who are your role models and what do you admire about them?
- What have your in-real-life mentors taught you by example?
- What are your talents?
- What are your best character qualities?
- What are your weaknesses?
- Describe three incidences of failure, what led to them, and how you dealt with that?
- What are the three most important lessons you have learned in your life?
- If you could write a letter to your past self, how old would the recipient be, and what would you say?
- What do you believe about God?
- What does it mean to be a real Christian?
- What role does the Bible play in your life?
- What role does prayer play in your life?
- What does an ideal healthy spiritual life look like to you?
- What doubts haunt your spiritual life? How do you deal with them?
- What beliefs (religious or not) hold you back from progress? How can you replace them?
- How have your church experiences shaped you?
- What do you value in a friend?
- What do your friends appreciate most about you?
- What are deal breakers when it comes to friendship?
- In what ways have others told you that you annoy or anger them? Do you think this is valid?
- How has your educational experience affected you?
- How do you feel like your gender, and its cultural expectations, have shaped your life?
- How has your race or ethnicity affected your experiences?
- How has your family of origin (especially your parents and siblings) shaped you?
- How have your intimate relationships shaped you?
- What qualities do you (or would you) value most in an intimate partner?
- What is your parenting philosophy?
- What have you done to improve your relationships?
- If a friend comes to you for help or advice with problems, how do you respond?
- How willing are you to ask for help or advice when you have problems?
- Is there someone with whom you have an unresolved conflict? What will you do about it?
- What makes it difficult for you to trust someone?
- How do you set personal boundaries for what you allow in your relationships?
- Would you describe yourself as usually dependent, independent, or interdependent?
- Would you describe yourself as assertive, passive, or aggressive in your interpersonal relationships?
- Who has made you feel especially valued or loved, and how?
- What makes you feel rejected? How do you respond to rejection?
- What makes you sad? How do you respond to sadness?
- What makes you angry? How do you respond to angry feelings?
- What makes you afraid? How do you respond to fear?
- What makes you feel like you aren't in control of your own life? How do you respond to that?
- What makes you happy?
- What makes you excited in positive way?
- What calms you?
- How do you motivate yourself to do difficult or boring things?
- Where do you fall on the needing safety vs. willing to risk continuum?
- How have you shown resilience in your life?
- What do you like about your own body?
- What makes you feel self-conscious about your body?
- How do you feel about your style of clothing, hair, makeup, etc.?
- How does your physical health affect your life?
- What are you doing to improve your physical and mental health?
- What has been your experience with counseling?
- In what ways do you self-sabotage your own well-being?
- What do you like to eat, and what does that say about you?
- What are your favorite forms of exercise?
- What kinds of experiences drain your energy?
- In what ways are you introverted and/or extroverted?
- In what ways are you flexible and/or structured?
- What do you do to cheer yourself up?
- What is your dream job?
- What do you value about your current job or career?
- What frustrates you about your current job or career?
- What are your views on morality and social justice issues?
- What are your political and economic views?
- If you could make three laws to improve society, what would they be?
- What organizations have you joined, and how do they add value to your life?
- What does your schedule look like for a typical day or week?
- What would you like to change about your schedule?
- How do you handle a challenging project when you're not quite sure what to do?
- What do you enjoy doing in your free time?
- How does being outside in nature affect you?
- What natural setting do you enjoy most? Why?
- What new day trip would you like to take? Why?
- What three places would you like to travel to in your own country? Why?
- What three places would you like to travel to in the world? Why?
- What role does creating art and/or music play in your life?
- What role does appreciating the arts play in your life?
- What are your favorite games or sports?
- What are your favorite books or other things to read?
- What are your favorite movies, TV shows, or other things to watch?
- What are your favorite songs, or genre of music?
- How do you use technology, and how does this affect your life?
- What are your favorite apps on your phone or other device?
- Where do you go for trustworthy world and national news?
- How do you manage your finances?
- What are your three most valued physical possessions?
- What do you like most about your current home?
- What would you like to change about your current home?
- Describe your dream home.
- As you anticipate the rest of your life, what do you fear most?
- What is your "happily ever after" in your hopes for the rest of your life?
- If you could change one major facet of your life, what would it be?
- If that change is impossible, what would be an acceptable, attainable substitute?
- What could you do now to move in that direction?
- If you could take any class or finish a new degree, what would it be and where would you go for it?
- What three charitable organizations or causes are most important to you?
- What legacy do you want to leave for the future generations?
- Which of these questions made you most uncomfortable?
- Which of these questions revealed the most to you about yourself?
- Which questions do you need to answer more completely or authentically?
I compiled this list of questions several months ago, but they've been sitting here on my blog in draft form. I'm thinking hard about who I am and what I want in life right now, so I figured I'd dust these off, go through them myself, and share them with y'all. You're welcome.
Grace and peace,
Virginia Knowles
