Showing posts with label Authentic Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Authentic Life. Show all posts

Monday, July 19, 2021

Virginia's Life: Summer 2021 Update!



Dear friends,

It's been over a year since I've written here on this blog, except for the poem and road trip photo journal I just posted today. I thought I'd give you an update!

Asbury Seminary

The biggest thing that has happened in the last year is that I graduated from Asbury Theological Seminary with a Master of Arts in Ministry on May 15 at the Orlando campus ceremony! I wish we could have had our guests come in person but at least they could watch the live stream. Seminary took me just three years since this degree is only 48 credits. Since I didn't have to take Greek or Hebrew or any of the other most difficult classes, I managed to maintain a 4.0 GPA. 




I have always said, and still say with all my heart, "Asbury gave me my life back!" I met amazing people, learned so much about theology and ministry, raised abuse advocacy awareness among students and faculty, and gained confidence in my calling. 

I also had the wonderful opportunity to work for two of my professors for two semesters. I was a Practical Theology course assistant, which meant grading papers, interacting on the discussion boards, teaching a Zoom session on research methodology, and coaching students on their writing projects. For the other professor, I evaluated doctoral ministry student term papers. 

I flew up to the Wilmore, Kentucky campus this spring for my Transformative Teaching class. This dear professor, Dr. Beverly Johnson-Miller, taught my Practical Theology class last spring and had hired me as her course assistant in the fall. She pulled me aside after class to commend and commission me for my ministry, especially with empowering those in crisis situations. Her words were priceless. I wish I had a recording of them. I am so blessed.



What's Next?

Many people have asked what I will do with my seminary degree. I was tempted at first to try to find some big new thing, like church employment or training in spiritual direction. However, the more I contemplated this, the more I realized that right now I just need to quietly focus on what is already in front of me, which is more than enough. I'd rather go deep and do it well than spread myself too thin. In a few years (when my youngest graduates from high school) I will be able to reassess my direction and pursue more "ministry" opportunities.

So here is what I am doing for now:

  • I am almost done writing another book, Burned: Rising from the Ashes of Spiritual Crisis. It's filled with restorative spiritual practices, mainly for people who have been burned up or burned out with their religious experiences but really for anyone who wants a closer connection with God. I started writing it last summer after hearing, "It's time to write another book!" while I was praying. This was a surprise to me. People have been telling me I should, but I kept answering, "I just don't have time right now!" But I took it as a word from the Lord and started writing. I knew it was going to take an awful lot of careful preparation, so I only took one class that fall semester: an independent research course on crisis and spirituality. I read about 2,200 pages and wrote half the book. I also attended the Florida Christian Writer's Conference as my "field trip" for the class. In the spring semester, in addition to the two other classes I needed to graduate, I did a second independent research course and continued to read (another 2,200 pages!) and write. Now I've got about four chapters and an extensive appendix left to write. Please check out the website and hit the subscribe button! If this book launches well, I will continue to write other books.
  • I am active in my own congregation with the Scripture, prayer, and greeting ministries. I also teach Transplanted, a women's Bible study on the Psalms, every other week on Zoom.
  • I still work part-time from home for the United Way 211 crisis and referral helpline, which also serves the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in our area. I've been there for three years and recently passed my AIRS certification.
  • Next month I start teaching middle school and high school language arts in a local homeschool program one day per week. I love teaching this subject at these grade levels, and I am so grateful for the extra income. It's been several years since I taught in the classroom, so I'm also glad I took a Transformative Teaching class in my last semester of seminary.
  • I am still homeschooling my youngest daughter for the rest of high school, which is another three years. I think this makes about 30 years of homeschooling so far if you count preschool with my oldest.
My Kids
  • My almost 16 year old daughter will be in my language arts class, as well as a studio art class in the homeschool program. She has done an amazing job getting her bedroom in order this past year with mega-organizing. Her dad came over to help her paint, and she's redone all of her decorating as well. I am so proud of her!
  • My 18 year old son graduated from public high school in May and is joining the Navy. He leaves for boot camp in Illinois at the end of this month and then will train in aircraft mechanics in northwest Florida. I'm going to miss him so much! Wahhhh! Though raised in our Protestant home, he was baptized and confirmed into the Catholic church at Easter. He now has quite a collection of icons, rosaries, crucifixes, and beautiful things which reflect his faith. We have the loveliest conversations.
  • My 20 year old daughter is a college student and a customer service manager. She has taken a lot of very hard science courses but hasn't yet decided on her major. She is very active in student leadership on her campus and enjoys frequent trips to the beach. She still lives at home.
  • My 22 year old son, who joined the Navy last year, finished his course at the Defense Language Institute in California last month and is awaiting orders for his next assignment. He continues to compose amazing music.
  • My 24 year old son works full-time and lives nearby; he had COVID last year and was out of work for a month but has made a full recovery. He is an excellent chef. I think he should open a catering business someday.
  • My 26 year old daughter is a ceramics artist and restaurant server. She and her husband are building a house near St. Augustine and will be reclaiming her dog Persephone who has been living with me for several years.
  • My 28 year old daughter, a licensed marriage and family therapist just started in private practice specializing in religious trauma. She and her husband live in Melbourne, Florida. 
  • My 30 year old daughter is a hospital RN and lives nearby. I was hospitalized for a few days last year and was lucky enough to get a bed in her cardiovascular progressive care unit. She took some time off and monitored my care from my room. She loves to travel with her next younger sister. They went for a western national parks adventure this past year. She lives with her kitty and housemates.
  • My 32 year old daughter has been managing a legal office but has reduced her hours. She and her husband have two children and three cats and live nearby. They frequently also visit his family's cabin in North Carolina. I love that she is well connected with great friends. 
  • My 34 year old daughter started her own business from home with public relations, writing, editing, and web design. She and her husband both homeschool their four children. They all live nearby with their dog.

Travel

  • My two youngest children and I took a road trip last month to Maryland and back. You can see my photo journal of that here: Road Trip 2021!


  • My youngest daughter and I also took a trip to St. Petersburg, Florida for two days to see art museums. We especially loved the Imagine and Chihuly glass art museums.




Right now I am scrambling to get as many house projects done as I can before school starts in just a few weeks!

One last thing: I just posted a poem about a mourning dove on this blog today. It's in honor of my mother, who passed away eight years ago today. You can find it here: What Do I Know?

That's all for now folks!

Grace and peace,
Virginia Knowles


Monday, July 9, 2018

Simple Woman's Daybook - July 2018

Hello friends!

I'm back with another Simple Woman's Daybook! (Check out my first one from April and my second one from June) 

simple-woman-daybook-large.jpgI'm linking this up to the TSW Daybook blog hop. Maybe you'd like to give it a try too? It's SIMPLE! I'm just following the prompts! I must confess, though, that I have rearranged the sections due to what I'm writing about and how each part connects with the others this time around.


For Today...

Looking out my window...




I am thinking...

Last time I mused that the summer can slip by so easily... And it has! School starts again in just a month, and I need to register my youngest daughter for 7th grade. It's going to be a big transition from home school to public school for her. But for now, the immediate need is for me to gather test scores, residency documents, and shot records. Which means she needs shots. No fun. She's getting them this week.

One of my favorite things...


Or three.


The "do more of what makes you happy" dish was a gift from one of my daughters, and looking at it makes me happy.

I bought the little blue vase on the night I realized I needed to go to seminary. It is kind of like a memorial stone for me. I chose the silk peony for it since it's my favorite flower, even though I've never grown any. I always love seeing pictures of peonies on Facebook.

All of these are on my bedside table - the first thing I see when I wake up, the last thing I see before I go to sleep.

I am wearing...

I'm wearing an soft-textured dark-colored floral pullover and a pair of loose silky black pants. I haven't changed out of my office clothes for the day since they are so comfortable! 



I also ordered a new swimsuit from Amazon, since I was having a hard time finding my size locally. It's not 100% perfect fit, but as good as I'm going to get. It's black and white, and I plan to wear a black cami under it for better coverage. I was trying it on to see if it fit, and then got a long phone call, so I had it on for quite a while. Comfortable enough!

I am thankful...


I am thankful for my new job at Heart of Florida United Way 2-1-1. I had been looking for a part-time job for a while, after over 30 year of being a (mostly) stay-at-home mom. I knew about a big job fair downtown, but that morning was super busy and I was taking my daughter somewhere in the afternoon. I balked at going, but at the last minute, I tweaked and printed my resume, put on some business clothes, packed my brief case, and went! 



I'm glad I did, because United Way was the first booth I visited, and I knew when they handed me the job description that it was exactly what I wanted. I applied and did a mini-interview on the spot, and was hired less than a week later to work about 17 hours a week. The job is answering crisis and referral calls, which could be anything from someone needing help with their electric bill to someone contemplating suicide. That, of course, takes some special training, which starts in two weeks. So for the past two weeks, I have been reading training manuals and doing outgoing follow-up calls. I check to see if our clients have received the assistance they were requesting, and if they were satisfied with the 2-1-1 service. Today I talked to a precious 94 year old lady who is lovingly caring for her husband of 73 years, even though he has dementia. She is so thankful for the referral to Meals on Wheels. I love my job!






I am creating...




I'm still working on my newest blog, a multi-faceted devotional Bible study called Wisdom from James. Two chapters down, three to go!

I am listening...


"Found Tonight" is an amazing mash-up of "The Story Of Tonight" by Lin-Manuel Miranda from "Hamilton" and "You Will Be Found" by Ben Platt from "Dear Evan Hansen". The two songs go together so well, and it's my absolute favorite song to listen to while driving to work since it helps me think of the people I will be serving on the phone. 


A snippet of the lyrics...

Even when the dark comes crashing through
When you need a friend to carry you
When you're broken on the ground
You will be found
So let the sun come streaming in
'Cause you'll reach up and you'll rise again
If you only look around
You will be found

And when our children tell their story
You will be found
They'll tell the story of tonight
Oh, no matter what they tell you
Tomorrow there'll be more of us
Telling the story of tonight
The story of tonight



I am hoping...

Like so many of you, I've been glued to the news of the boys' soccer team trapped in a water-filled cave in Thailand. As of now, eight boys have been rescued by expert divers, and there are four more boys and their coach waiting for rescue. The whole world is hoping that they will be brought to safety and that all of them will make a full recovery after over two weeks of hunger, darkness, and fear. It's what makes the song "Found Tonight" even more poignant.

Even when the dark comes crashing through
When you need a friend to carry you
When you're broken on the ground
You will be found




At the same time, I remember that these are not the only children in Thailand who need rescue. "Thailand is a major source, transit, and destination country for men, women, and children trafficked for the purposes of sexual exploitation and forced labor." Find out more here: Destiny Rescue / Thailand.


I am learning...

I was going to write about learning how to use the Trello online software to organize my tasks, but I remembered I already wrote about it in a post on my This Mom Grows Up blog. You can find that post here: This Mom Starts a New Chapter.


However, related to this, I'm still trying to learn to make the best use of my time, especially since I am starting three classes at seminary in September. I already bought all of my textbooks. One of the recent arrivals for my Church History class is The Rule of St. Benedict. I knew already that it has much to say about living an orderly life, but after skimming through it, I'll just say I'm really glad I don't live in a Benedictine monastery. So many rules! Such a rigid schedule! Eek! I just don't function that way. 

In my kitchen...

A little cooking inspiration? I think I'm going to try some of these ideas to replace my sandwich when I pack lunches for work!




Post script...


This is the part of the daybook where we're encouraged to pass along a favorite link. So this month, it's my new employer, Heart of Florida United Way. Please check out what we do, and how you can participate!









Shared quote...

Since I'm featuring United Way today, I have to share a poem that is on an award plaque from City Year. It's one I often included in my literature unit studies when I taught home school co-op classes. I'm glad to see it each day as I step off the elevator at work.




The Bridge Builder

An old man going a lone highway,
Came, at the evening cold and gray,
To a chasm vast and deep and wide.
Through which was flowing a sullen tide
The old man crossed in the twilight dim,
The sullen stream had no fear for him;
But he turned when safe on the other side
And built a bridge to span the tide.

“Old man,” said a fellow pilgrim near,
“You are wasting your strength with building here;
Your journey will end with the ending day,
You never again will pass this way;
You’ve crossed the chasm, deep and wide,
Why build this bridge at evening tide?”

The builder lifted his old gray head;
“Good friend, in the path I have come,” he said,
“There followed after me to-day
A youth whose feet must pass this way.
This chasm that has been as naught to me
To that fair-haired youth may a pitfall be;
He, too, must cross in the twilight dim;
Good friend, I am building this bridge for him!”

A moment from my day

A dear friend - the one who inspired me to go to seminary - called to check in on me. Yesterday, she drove 14 hours up to Asbury Seminary's main campus in Wilmore, Kentucky. She's taking her last class, a week-long intensive in Christian leadership, for her MDiv degree. It was so good to talk with her about a bunch of different things. I am so thankful for her friendship. Please pray for Patricia as she discerns what is her own path in ministry in the days, months, and years to come. And for me too, as I start at Asbury's Orlando campus. 


Closing notes
This moment. Right now. I'm thinking now of those who will read my blog. I hope your life is going well now, and that you will reach out for help if it's not. 

No matter where we are or what is going on in our lives, may we all be Bridge Builders.

Grace and peace,
Virginia Knowles


Friday, April 13, 2018

Simple Woman's Daybook - April 2018


Hello friends!

Since I'm in an eclectic mood at the moment, I've decided to use the Simple Woman's Daybook format to get back into the swing of things here at this blog! I'll link this up up to the TSW Daybook blog hop next month. Maybe you'd like to give it a try too? It's SIMPLE! I'm just following the prompts!



For Today...


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Looking out my window...

This isn't out my window, but I love the way the light hit the net curtains and the sill.



This next one isn't exactly my window, but it's one I want to share!


This is a skylight window surrounded by stained glass panels at the Charles Hosmer Morse Museum in Winter Park, Florida. Admission is free on Friday evenings this month, so I took the two younger kids for an hour or so tonight. We've all been there many times! They have the most  comprehensive collection of stained glass by Louis Comfort Tiffany, as well as a lot of American folk art. My late mother was a stained glass artist, and I inherited her tools and glass. Someday, I'll give it a whirl.

I am thinking...

I've been thinking a lot about the future, and what I'm doing to move forward. I've had a lot of transitions in recent years, with old chapters ending and new ones beginning.  I'm thinking BIG GOALS (I've applied to seminary and now I'm in wait mode!) and I'm thinking about smaller daily stuff, like keeping up with dishes, laundry, groceries, budgeting... Oh, and driving kids everywhere. I am perpetually tweaking my systems, trying to think of ways to make things run smoother. And I'm pondering my direction. I want to know that I'm doing what I'm essentially meant to do in this life, and that I'll leave a legacy for the future.



Oddly, this future thinking also takes me to the past. I've picked up researching genealogy again, though only through the family tree of my maternal grandfather this time. As I click back through the centuries and continents on Ancestry.com, it fascinates me to think about back then and over there. What were the hopes and dreams of my foremothers Mary, Sancha, Delia, Appolonie, Hawise, Maud, Metje, Maria Magdalena, Agnes, Giovanni, Thankful, Deliverance, Comfort, and the hundreds of others on my list? What were their big goals in life? What life lessons did they teach their children? This week I discovered that some of my ancestors were banished from the Massachusetts Bay Colony along with Anne Hutchinson and Roger Williams. And funny thing is, a friend who subs at a public school brought over a few books they were discarding. This was the top one....


I am thankful...

I'm thankful for my family. We had all 10 kids and most of the grandchildren over for Easter dinner. I forgot to take pictures until after some of them had left, but I did get this one later on with several of the middle kids.


And here are my dear friends Molly and Patricia on Easter morning at church. I am so thankful for these ladies and their warm welcome! Patricia is graduating from Asbury Seminary soon and she has been a wonderful mentor for me.


One of my favorite things...

A year ago, I made a large blue writing table using the existing base of a small tilting table. It's well worn by now, but I still love it. You will see little bits of it in this post. The bottom edge of the desk is wood burned with the words: "Fill your soul with all good things and let the beauty pour forth." That's my motto for life.



I am creating...


Though I dabble in many forms of art, right now I am mainly focusing on photography and blogging. You can see both in these posts on my Watch the Shepherd blog:

I'm also trying to learn calligraphy.  I have a bunch of calligraphy markers. It took several tries to get this right. It's not super recent (from late last year) but it's my favorite piece.



I am wearing...


I love stained glass, especially rose windows. The one on this shirt is from Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris. I wore this tonight when we were visiting the Morse Museum. The photo at the top of this post is a rose window in the chapel at the Morse. I can't always travel to Europe to see castles and cathedrals, but I can appreciate the beauty around me!

I'm not much of a clothes person, but last week I spent a whole day shopping for business professional clothes, mainly for my seminary counseling department group interview. I settled on a mid length black skirt and jacket, with a short sleeve blue sweater that I already had. Whatever I end up doing - going to grad school or going back to work - I'm going to need some decent non-mommyish clothes.


I am reading... 

I decided when I applied to seminary that whether I go or not, I am still going to apply myself to studying theology by reading real books (especially old ones) and not just blog posts and other online resources. 

Church history is a deep love of mine (or a dark hobby if you consider how much I research dysfunction in religious movements), so I just finished up biographies of John Wesley (British founder of the Methodist church) and his contemporary Hannah More (British poet, educator, abolitionist, reformer). Then I polished off Booked, the literary memoir by Karen Swallow Prior, who also wrote the More bio. 

Now I'm finishing up In Search of Deep Faith by Jim Belcher, who took his family on a pilgrimage to Europe to learn about the people and places of our Christian heritage. Today I read about Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the German pastor executed for his part in the Resistance movement during World War II; I need to find a full length biography of him, too. 


And along with all of this, because I love vintage theology so much, I've been reading through a daily devotional that's over a century old.




And lastly, I just ordered these books by Vinita Hampton Wright, and have already started dipping into them...


In the Bible, I'm currently working through the book of Hebrews. 

I am listening...

A short playlist of beauty, joy, and authenticity...

I am hoping...

... that I figure out what I'm doing soon! Being in the limbo of waiting can be uncomfortable. But I've learned to keep moving forward and to work toward a variety of possibilities in the meantime. I've blown already through Plan A, Plan B, Plan C... Or should I say Chapter 1, Chapter 2, Chapter 3? It's all good. No matter what, I know that God is always with me, and he's not done working in my life yet! This quote is from that devotional book.


I am learning...

...slowly, to find that sweet spot between rest and work. Even within the realm of work, I have to discern when to do brain work (study and writing) and when to do manual work (taking care of my home and my health). I want to be productive rather than lazy, but I don't want to be driven to busy-ness by unrealistic expectations, comparisons with others, or shame at not being enough. There is a time to sit and think, and a time to get up and do. You'd think at age 54, I would have figured all of this out by now. But life changes, doesn't it? 

I do know I need to exercise more. This mini-gym makes it much easier for me. Nothing complicated. Hand weights and resistance bands, step, foam roller, balance board, and a small pedal machine.



In my kitchen...

One of my recent goals has been to start cooking more real meals for my family instead of relying so much on convenience foods and fast food. Yesterday was National Grilled Cheese Day, so that was easy enough. Tonight I set out a southern feast of leftover chili, warm cornbread with butter, hash browns, fried ham, and fresh pineapple. Ben said, "BET!" That's slang: he likes it. I still have to clean up the remains...


I often make protein smoothies for myself. I was getting tired of our blender jar always being dirty when I needed it, so I bought myself an immersion mixer which is really easy to rinse off right after I used it. I'm not sure why I didn't think of this before!




Post script...

This is the part of the daybook where we're encouraged to pass along a favorite link. I want to feature the blog of my brave friend Susan Moore, who is a survivor, an artist, and an encourager. She recently did a similar daybook post with a slightly different format. You can find it here: Currently. I started using the Day One journal app after reading about it on her blog.


Shared quote...


Quotes from Dietrich Bonhoeffer, German martyr...

“There is meaning in every journey that is unknown to the traveler.”

“We pray for the big things and forget to give thanks for the ordinary, small (and yet really not small) gifts. How can God entrust great things to one who will not thankfully receive from Him the little things?"

“The blessedness of waiting is lost on those who cannot wait, and the fulfillment of promise is never theirs. They want quick answers to the deepest questions of life and miss the value of those times of anxious waiting, seeking with patient uncertainties until the answers come. They lose the moment when the answers are revealed in dazzling clarity.”

“The awareness of a spiritual tradition that reaches through the centuries gives one a certain feeling of security in the face of all transitory difficulties.”

"Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.”


A moment from my day

Here we are to share a photo of the daily-ness of our lives.


A few weeks ago I decided I needed to consolidate most of my files into one cabinet. Having all of my papers handy and organized makes a lot of sense in my every day  life. The bottom drawer is logistical stuff like bills, warranties, schedules, health records, van repair receipts, and budgets. I labeled it "la vie quotidienne avec ma famille" which means "daily life with my family." The other drawer is "belle renaissance du coeur" which means "beautiful rebirth of heart" - and it has more spiritually oriented papers on spiritual growth, church, theology, ministry, social justice, writing, and speaking. This two drawer system is kind of like a picture of my life. I have both things to think about and work on. Eek. How do I integrate all of it without compromising any of it? 

0h, and truth be told, I do not even speak much French. It just seemed more elegant. :-) That's where Google Translate comes in handy, oui? 

Closing Notes
Wow! This has been a long post! Thanks for reading these snippets of my life. Can you please pray for me and for my family, that we will walk our journey well, with faith and hope and joy?

Grace and peace,
Virginia Knowles


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